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A Very Powerful Example of Sportsmanship

2019-09-04T12:42:37-07:00August 31st, 2019|

I think when you get to know Jesus more, doing things different becomes more comfortable. This is a great example of doing something different out of kindness for anything human being right on the heels of a tough performance. The Higher Power Mind Skill of Mental Filter in the CONFIDENCE lesson can also be applied to this great example. https://athletesinaction.org/quickhits/naomi-and-coco-teach-sportsmanship#.XXAONShKiwU

Three Questions for Youth During Tough Performances (AASP Blog Post)

2019-08-08T12:50:07-07:00July 31st, 2019|

It happens all the time. You know, the moment when your child walks off the field after a game during which he got little or no playing time. Alternatively, maybe it’s when she suffers an unexpected loss to an opponent who is far below her skill level. Perhaps it occurs when your child just choked under pressure in the big game. Regardless of the situation, these moments are hard for anyone. The child is emotionally charged, and you’re left wondering, “How should I handle this?” While we can’t tell you exactly what to say in these situations, we do know that [...]

How to Cultivate Optimism in Youth

2019-06-25T14:21:21-07:00June 21st, 2019|

I, like many of you, shutter when you hear youth say, “I can’t”. There is just this visceral response in me that wants to grab the nearest set of pom poms and say, “You can, you can”. But sometimes motivation is more than that. Sometimes it requires picking up youth responses in a little more strategic way. Enter the world of optimism. Optimism is not always about the world being rainbows and daisies (love me some rainbows and daisies though) but it is about hope for great things to come and it can be learned. Several years ago a man by [...]

How to foster striving for excellence vs. perfectionism in youth

2019-05-24T15:11:20-07:00May 20th, 2019|

I let my little girl pick her own outfit and do her own hair and head off to school the other day. I may still have a cut on my tongue from where I bit it in order to not tell her how ridiculous I thought she looked. The thing is, she loved it. She was so happy, so I shut my mouth, gave her a big smile and off she went. I am a recovered perfectionist and little things like this help not only me, but also help my daughter avoid some idea that she has to look or be [...]

What’s the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem in youth? Why it matters.

2019-04-25T08:15:59-07:00April 24th, 2019|

Do you believe someone can have self-confidence but not have self-esteem? Read on, my friend! I never really thought there was much of a difference between these two. But the truth it, there is a difference and it’s important that we nurture both of them in youth. Self-confidence is described as “belief in one’s ability”. For example, “I’m a great singer”, “I can kick the ball really well”, “I can overcome challenges”, or “I am smart”. Each of these statements represent a belief in abilities. Self-esteem is a belief that we are valued as a human being; self-respect. For example, “I [...]

Why we love March Madness

2019-04-12T10:11:34-07:00March 31st, 2019|

Personally, I’m loving March Madness right now because my team, University of Virginia, just won it all, baby! The 2019 NCAA College Basketball National Champions! I’ve made it a general philosophy not to pray for a team to win or lose, but man, if ever there was a time to almost break it, it was this! (For the record, I do pray for things like strength, wisdom, endurance, etc. for all the various performers during the game though) Here’s why we love March Madness….because it’s a clean slate. Teams get to move beyond everything they’ve done in the past and start [...]

What Is the Most Important Mental Skill?

2019-03-03T14:09:41-08:00February 28th, 2019|

Often times people ask me what I think is the most important mental skill. Some typical answers are "the one you need most", or "all of them", or "the one that is your biggest strength". In other words....it depends! But, I think what they are asking is what truly gives us the freedom to consistently perform at our best. In that case, this is my answer: Knowing you are loved and valued no matter how you perform. This may sound ironic and it is certainly not the vibe people get from society, but things based on Jesus are not of this [...]

Don’t Hate Tom Brady

2019-01-31T14:54:04-08:00January 30th, 2019|

I have a theory about what helps Tom Brady continue to go to Super Bowl, after Super Bowl, after Super bowl….ok, I won’t do this 9 times. Here’s the thing. It’s hard to get to the top, but it could be said that it is just as hard or harder to stay there. In our efforts to accomplish our goals, we often focus on achieving the goal, as we should. But what happens once we get it? We should celebrate, praise God, receive the joy, and intentionally reflect on what God did to get us to that point. Sometimes, what also [...]

Multi Tasking vs. Multi Shifting

2018-12-27T15:24:32-08:00December 27th, 2018|

Did you know the human brain can’t think of two things at the same time? Try it. Try to think of an elephant and a dog at the same time. Your mind is quickly going back and forth between the two animals. When it seems people are thinking about 2 or more things at one time, the brain is actually quickly (or not so quickly) shifting back and forth. Do you think this can affect how we perform? Absolutely! For example, if you are trying to text and do homework, the quality of one or both of those two “performances” will [...]

Getting the Joy Back; Overcoming Burnout

2018-11-30T21:12:16-08:00November 28th, 2018|

It is sad to lose joy over something you used to love. Burnout is often described as a decrease in desire to do a certain activity. Often times it makes us feel numb towards an activity that we once loved. We can even begin to feel resentment toward this activity that we are in. The thing is, usually this activity gave us excitement and joy at one point in our life so it can also be discouraging. This can change though! In some cases, burnout can be a sign that it is time to leave this activity. But this article is [...]

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